Start with presentation. A favour that sits at each place setting is part of the table styling, so the box matters as much as what is inside. Lily O'Brien's has been handcrafting chocolates in Newbridge, Co. Kildare since Mary Ann O'Brien started the brand in 1992, and the small-format boxes suit a place setting without crowding the glassware. Neutral tones sit comfortably with most colour schemes, which spares you matching favours to napkins.

Choose a chocolate made with care, present it simply, order in good time, and your favours will do exactly what they should. They will say thank you, look the part on the table, and quietly make it home in a handful of pockets.

On dietary questions, and there will be some, point guests to the published ingredient information rather than vouching for suitability yourself. It is the accurate way to answer.

Presentation matters less for this recipient than for most, but a clean, uncluttered box still reads better than fussy wrapping he will only bin. The chocolate is the gift; the packaging just needs to get it there in good order.

A hamper suits the occasion where you want to make a gesture. It arrives looking like an event, it gives the new owners something to open in front of guests, and it shares around a room full of people who have come to see the place. For a couple moving in together or a family setting up a first proper home, it reads as warm without being fussy.

The case for a hamper over a smaller gift is scale. A career of thirty or forty years is not marked by a modest box, and a hamper reads as the send-off such a stretch has earned. It arrives as an event, it gives the leaver something substantial to open at the desk or the gathering, and it shares around the team who came to say goodbye. That shared element matters, because a retirement is as much a moment for the people staying as for the person leaving.